I’ve always been someone who wants my friends to feel confident in their bodies and in their skin. I’m not an overly nice person — that’s not what I’m saying. But, I know who I am when it comes to jokes about someone’s body or looks, etc. What I want to write about today is feeling good about yourself when you are that person.
I often feel hypocritical when I tell my friends not to talk bad about themselves when I look in the mirror and I don’t like what I see. There’s no way my friends can feel that I’m being honest and truthful when they know I’m saying the same things about myself, right?
But I think expecting yourself to be truly self-loving and confident all the time is another unrealistic standard that people cannot meet easily at all. If you picture the perfect person in your head, they usually don’t have confidence issues, do they? It’s just another layer of expected perfection added on to the long list of things we feel the need to do. Self love is something that is slowly achieved and grown over time and it doesn’t come easily. So you can’t turn around from hyping up your friends and always expect to feel like a boss bitch.
Sometimes it’s hard to admit to yourself that you might not have incredible confidence, and I think that’s why. Because we’re expected to, right? We don’t want to admit failure in yet another category. Anytime I think something negative about myself, my next thought is usually along the lines of “lmao wtf Chloe shut up” because it’s so hard to accept that I might actually need to improve my confidence.
Something we hear a lot is “you can’t love someone else until you love yourself.” I think it’s probably true that it’s hard to give love to someone when you don’t have a lot for yourself, but that doesn’t mean that no one else can love you. I’m no expert, but I feel like people with confidence issues tend to think they don’t deserve love. If that’s you, how do you expect to learn how to love yourself if you’re not allowing it from anywhere else?
I just want everyone to keep in mind that they’re doing great and you are enough. Luv u<3